Have you ever asked yourself,  “What is the purpose of my Life experience?”. I personally believe that it is to teach us to become more aware of ‘who we are’ – our greatness and truth.

Becoming aware is not that easy though as very few people ever take the time to try and discover who they are. They are too busy to think about their ‘reason for being’ to really discover who they are.

Lau Tzu said, “Knowing others is intelligence, but knowing self is true wisdom.”

You may then ask “What does it take to ‘know self’?” The answer, I believe, is to become a Victor and not a Victim. Let me explain the difference…

The Victim

To be a victim all you need to do is be swept into this great need to prove yourself to others. You will have to be successful so that others will admire or respect you. Even though “you have to be successful”, you may not even know what success is. You would probably think success is:

  • Having more money
  • Operating my own business
  • Traveling the world
  • Living in a meaningful relationship
  • Obtaining my masters

and the list goes on and on.

You’ll live in a hyperactive world, chasing after something which you are not yet aware of. Have you ever heard of something more insane than this? – Chasing after something and you do not know what it is.

Never take the time to introspect. Allow yourself to be busy running from the one task to the next…always being controlled by circumstance and never being in control.

You will never be happy, never be at peace with yourself and the world. You will always criticize, find fault and be swift to anger. You are the “Victim.” Life always owes you something and is never “good enough.”

The Victor

To be a victor you will need to continuously be AWARE.

To grow, you need to continuously be learning, unlearning and relearning. Isn’t it true that we learn the most during difficult challenges?

It is these challenges that cause you to search deeper into your psyche, heart and soul, and be brutally honest with yourself. They cause you to take responsibility to let go of the old ways and discover new ways of doing things. This process is the gift that allows you to grow. It stretches you, it builds your character and capacity, it exp ands your awareness and it enables you to go deeper into your spiritual wisdom.

Life will give you opportunities and challenges. Take the time to stop to think and contemplate and go into your heart when dealing with a challenge. This contemplation will allow you to discover more of who you are and what you are about. It will cause you to self-correct, re-adjust, let go, embrace the new, and come out victorious at the end.

You need to take responsibility and become AWARE of your choices and actions. You do this by becoming AWARE of the consequences of your choices. If the consequence of your choice or action does not make you feel good then change your choices.

This will build your self-worth, capacity and awareness. It will create winning experiences for you and allow you to experience a state of “Victory”.



Life is tough. Life is not meant to be easy. I can tell you one thing though and that is, “When you are tougher on yourself, life is far easier on you.” However, when you are easy on yourself, life is far tougher on you.

You see, to take life easy, you do not have to do anything. You do not need to take responsibility, go to work, get married, have kids, educate yourself, exercise, manage your finances, change your bad habits, set goals, work those goals, identify your purpose, discover truth, become aware, etc. You can go and park off on the beach if you like or sleep all day. Better still you can sit in the pub or watch “Big Brother’ or you can allow circumstance to dictate your life to you.

Don’t be the victim, being a selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that ‘the world will not devote itself to making you happy’. Rather choose to be the Victor, as George Bernard Shaw so eloquently wrote, “Used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one.”

Learn, unlearn and relearn continuously and never give up!


I look forward to continuing to hear of your successes and remember, keep on being extraordinary.

Your friend,



P.S If you are serious about becoming the VICTOR of your life then send me an email at info@mcatraininginternational.com to find out more about how you can achieve the greatest of victories with our “Fundamentals To Creating Your Successful Life” Growthshop.